How would you feel if an old flame sent you a message on facebook? Just to ask if they had the appropriate person? (am pretty certain it is the ideal person)

 

Would it be a shock to view an ex after 17 years? I sent out a message to a man I dated in high school and also obtained no response. Its hurt my feelings a little bit because I constantly remembered him as a really nice man and also we parted as friends. I do not desire to acquire earlier via him, I just assumed of him and looked him up as facebook is for reconnecting.

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But I don"t gain it.. I am reasoning possibly he is afrassist responding to me will start something up again/ carry ago memories?

 

I am sure simply seeing my profile photo should have actually brought earlier memories.

 

Could it really just be that he doesnt want anypoint to execute through me?


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Furbys


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

I would personally be reasoning "why after 17 years do they all of a sudden want to talk to me?" and i would certainly not reply, bereason for me an ex is someone i do not want to be in call via. Maybe he thinks you are only saying hi bereason you favor him and might want to re kindle what you had actually, he may not remember you, he might not of viewed the message yet.. that knows.

 

But dont be suprised if he never before replies, some world perform not desire to talk to ex"s whether its been 17 days or 17 years.


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camus154


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

He probably has a wife and family members now and does not uncover reconnecting through old flames on Facebook to be correct.


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mhowe


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

Since it"s 17 years without contact. Some people would certainly think about it an invasion of privacy. I am certain the majority of civilization look up civilization from their previous -- -however they do not act on it.


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guynextdoor


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

Maybe he does not want to be friends via an ex, most likely applies to you and also any various other woguys he was involved through in the pass.


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lanaa


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

Why contact an ex from 17 years ago? he is many more than likely married,and via kids.His wife would not choose,simply prefer you would not prefer if your husband out of nowbelow began talking through an old ex


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millymac


Posted June 4, 2012

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Has anyone actually skilled being contacted by an ex on facebook after many kind of years?

If so was it a shock to check out them? Did it make you curious about them? Did it upcollection you?

 

I sassist, I dont desire him earlier, I dont see exactly how asking if I have the appropriate person is an invasion of privacy - its facebook not an individual email deal with. I would certainly have actually preferred to ask him just how he is, what he is doing currently, thats all. His not responding has made me think that I did somepoint I shouldnt have actually.


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annie24


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

I want to suggest out that Facebook currently has 2 inboxes, those from your friends and "various other messeras." it"s a surprise inbox and that"s wbelow emails from non friends go. Most human being don"t understand about this second email inbox. It"s feasible he can not have even gotten your message.


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mhowe


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

And you do not think you did?

 

Why open up his past as soon as he is not the leastern little bit curious around you?

 

You say you "don"t desire him back"....ummm great, cause the opportunities of that more than likely weren"t excellent. He plainly, and also a handful of posters, dont" actually think you have actually the "right" to have actually a 2 means interaction with him.


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Divine010


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

How Long has actually it been given that you sent the message?

 

He might not even be energetic on tright here as it have the right to take me a month to go online and also respond to human being. FB is so irrelevant to me and also not useful in my life. Who knows!

 

But why problem around it, if you do not desire him ago. If he didn"t respond, it may be for excellent reason and try not to take it personal.


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millymac


Posted June 4, 2012

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I really do not think I did anything wrong, I was simply reminded of him and asked if I had the best perboy.

 

How execute you know he is not curious around me? As some of the posters sassist maybe he is married and doesnt think it is proper to message me earlier which is fine, yet we were children once we went out, so I believed it would certainly be safe enough.

 

If the case was reversed and he messaged me I would have actually been fine around it and also happy to say hello as we had actually parted as friends. My question was to anyone that had actually remained in the situation - how did it make them feel


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annie24


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

Tright here are a million possibilities and it"s not worth it to gain upset. He may not have also acquired the email. I"ve heard from exes after years, occasionally I feel invarious, occasionally I have no interemainder in rekindling things- whether a friendship or even more.


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millymac


Posted June 4, 2012

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annie24 - I understand what you mean by the 2 inboxes, I intend tbelow is a opportunity he didnt watch it.

divine010 - I sent the message over a week back however I dont send many messages to civilization so I alert when I dont obtain an answer, its simply bugging me as I wouldnt overlook someone unmuch less I really didnt favor them, I expect thats why I am taking it personally


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annie24


Posted June 4, 2012

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Posted June 4, 2012

Not everyone is good about responding to emails easily. Especially if there is no immediate content. You waited 17 years to email him, you could not hear from him for a couple of years. And for all you understand, he is having actually a busy week. He might not email you ago at all. Assume he will not, and also then it will be a pleasant surpclimb of he does.


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shadowplay


Posted June 4, 2012

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He most likely has actually a wife and also family currently and doesn"t uncover reconnecting via old flames on Facebook to be proper.

 

I think this is very likely, and also also extremely wise. A lot of affairs begin after old flames reaffix on social media.


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millymac


Posted June 4, 2012

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Yeah, I have currently assumed I wont get a reply, I just hate to think that perhaps he has actually not gained great memories of me bereason I execute of him.


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Miss Firecracker


Posted June 4, 2012

Miss Firecracker

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Posted June 4, 2012

I do not think what you did was wrong, yet many likely this male is at the least attached to someone, or possibly married. Either method, he has eexceptionally factor to disregard your message, regardless of exactly how he feels about you. You shouldn"t take it personally. Just assume he is respecting a connection.

 

I had a very starray experience a week ago on Facebook. This guy that happens to be on my father"s Frifinish list, popped me a request. Only because my dad knows his family, I embraced to make certain I didn"t offfinish him. I don"t know him from Adam. Later that night, he created me a personal message saying I was his initially crush. I was floored and also type of upset around it. That really creeped me out. So I did a search on his name and also realized as soon as he had the crush on me at age 12, I would certainly have actually been 17. Got to thinking, my husband"s baby sister has actually a name comparable to mine. I composed this man earlier, wanting to acquire this mess cleared up. I asked if he was a friend of my SIL, and he created back and also was exceptionally embarrassed. Now I am stuck with this Frifinish and also just really uncomfortable about it. Due to the fact that he knows my father, I won"t delete him.

 

Anyway, I just think it"s generally a very poor principle to call civilization as soon as you are not even sure that they are. You might be creating to a married guy that you do not also recognize. That"s not good.