Two Kinds of Woguys

Are women coming to be less slaves of approval? Might be.

Posted September 20, 2010


 

 

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In my endure, there are 2 kinds of woguys (not those two, potty mind).

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For desire of even more sophisticated terms, I"ll contact them "old woman" and also "brand-new womale."

The idea of transforming women"s consciousness has actually been bandied around for some time now. But I"ve simply been encountering it in 2 components of my life.


One is the spirited dispute about European alcohol policy where, the method I watch it, Northern Europeans are imposing their mindsets towards and strictures approximately alcohol on Southern Europeans, that have actually a totally different consciousness about it.

In the procedure, I fight via significant machers (that"s a technological term in the alcohol field) - male in nature, Northern European by profession - that run roughshod over Southern views.


And some of the a lot of insightful and also ardent advocates of the Southern view (that alcohol is an native force in Mediterranean cultures, socialized early in life within households, so that even as young Italians et al. congregate in Southern European plazregarding drink beer, they still do not pour it down their gulallows choose Americans, Australians, and also Finns - to name a few) are woguys.


Yet the woguys live in fear of offending the machers. I realize they have careers to safeguard (unfavor myself). But, still - as I asked one - "Why bvarious other to execute research, write, and believe in somepoint if you run for the hills whenever before challenged by some expected big deal in the alcohol plan world? Amongst other points, their perspectives and also the method they express them present that they disrespect you."


Okay, let"s transition to another component of my life area - my 22-year-old daughter. On a girls" day out (wright here we gain massages and also facials - I"m the only male in the facial place), she told me about applying for a genuine task at the prominent male-oriented periodical where she has an internship since she graduated from college. A phelp employee is leaving, and also my daughter - only a couple of weeks right into her internship - used for his job, contending with another, older, male intern.


I sassist, "Isn"t that a brave thing to do?" She sassist, "Why?" I shelp, "Well, initially because you might be afrhelp that they"ll think you are as well pushy. Second, bereason you"d be afrassist of being rejected. And you are competing through a male for a place in a men"s club."

My daughter answered, "No, not really. I feel I"m smarter than him - he misoffers words all the time. I think eincredibly one of my girlfriends would carry out the exact same point."


Has this brand-new generation licked the approval trap, wbelow woguys, to defend themselves, do not press up against male-establimelted barriers for are afraid of offending, and thus remajor trapped in female ghettos?

I dunno - but could be.

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Stanton Peele, Ph.D., J.D., is the writer of A Scientific Life on the Edge: My Lonely Quest to Change How We See Addiction. He has functioned in the addiction area considering that the publication of Love and Addiction in 1975.


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