Dear Readers: I started creating the "Ask Amy" column 10 years earlier this week. In that time, I"ve fielded plenty of letters from readers spanning eexceptionally imaginable individual instance and also dilemma. I"ve additionally tackled inquiries about concerns I"d never imagined.

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I am noting this decade of advice by stepping amethod briefly for the first time in 10 years to capture my breath and also check out a couple of self-assist books.


I rerotate following week. In the meantime, I hope you"ll enjoy some of my favorite "Ask Amy" inquiries and also answers.

Dear Amy: I have actually been dating a wonderful, warmth, caring male for the last 5 months. He has many positive characteristics and enjoys the social arts and also dancing as much as I do. I care a lot about him.


The problem is his negative, incorrect grammar. He is intelligent and also educated, but often as soon as he talks, he sounds as though he is neither. I do not know if it is simply a poor halittle bit he"s developed over the years or if he is unconscious his grammar is incorrect. I"ve met other members of his family and also they stop effectively.

I wish his poor grammar didn"t bother me, however it does. I have actually a master"s level and also have been a music teacher for 27 years, so I"m extremely aware whether students and also human being in general are utilizing proper grammar. I"ve run this "problem" previous family and also friends and have actually acquired a variety of responses. I would certainly really favor to carry his grammar errors as much as him because I believe it"s something he could correct, yet I need to do it in a kind and also tactful way so I don"t hurt his feelings.

Here are some examples of his grammatical errors:

I do not want no even more of that food.

I watched a beautiful image at the art gallery

I should"ve did that paperwork yesterday.

I"m so wore out from all that job-related.

This may be my very own idiosyncrasy and also a little picky in light of his various other wonderful features, but speaking appropriately is vital to me and I can"t seem to let it go. Any suggestions?


— Grammatically Correct Lady

Dear Correct: When you want to be tactful, I think it"s ideal to begin, not by running chapter and also verse past your friends and also family members and soliciting their opinions, however by being straight and also respectful.

I"ve noticed that tactful people frequently seem to camouflage their concern with self-deprecating charm. You can begin by informing your friend just how much you reap him. Then you should segue right into the tact. You say, "I understand I"m going to sound prefer a schoolmarm right here, yet did you realize that you make grammatical mistakes from time to time?" Ask him exactly how he"d feel if you corrected him now and then.

He may say, "It do not make no nevermind to me," which, though untranslatable, is an invitation to go ahead and correct. (2004)

Dear Amy: Our family members enjoys your column. You have a specifically dedicated fan in our 12-year-old child, that reads your column eextremely morning in the time of breakrapid.

As a family members through roots in the Appalachian Mountains of North Carolina, we specifically chosen the finish of your answer to "Grammatically Correct Lady" in a current column.

However, to our eye (ear?) your education and also feeling of grammatical propriety was still peeking with.

We would certainly generally say, "It do not make me no nevermind." To say, "It don"t make no nevermind to me," as you did — through a bona fide prepositional expression had — is simply a little bit of citified formality!

— Fans in Chicago

Dear Fans: I"ve heard from numerous readers wondering if I flourished up in a particular edge of Virginia or along the North Carolina border. I didn"t, however somejust how that phrase made it north right into my aboriginal neck of the woods.

Your correction is correct.

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Insertion of a prepositional phrase should have actually been due to my currently integrated are afraid of vigilant copy editors, that conserve me everyday.

By the method, the translation to this ungrammatical phrase is, "It does not matter to me," which, though understandable, lacks music, do not you think?

My sincere thanks to your 12-year-old son and to breakfast-table readers anywhere. (2004)